Reconnecting to the real you
Finding your purpose
Empowering you to live a life of meaning
I am at a new life stage and my youngest will be flying the next in the not too distant future. I am conscious of the clock ticking and I need to start planning and do all the things I want before it's too late. It was a very enjoyable session and very thought provoking. I have thought of nothing else since I left and have realised I haven't been listening to my dreams.March 2022Values Workshop Client
I was in a very bad place, right after making some life-changing decisions and under pressure to make more big decisions about my future and I felt really lost. Ruth guided me out of the wilderness of my thoughts and feelings and helped me recognise that I already have a lot of the answers. Identifying my core values felt like looking into a mirror and proudly saying 'this is me.'January 2022
The biggest change I've observed since coaching is that I am much more comfortable accepting that whatever I think or feel is valid. As a consequence, I am a lot better now setting my boundaries. Also being clear on my values now, I feel like I'm standing on firm ground and not on quicksand anymore.January 2022
Coaching with Ruth was a time which enabled me to process my thoughts, think more clearly, draw conclusions to troubling, hurtful situations at home, release unhelpful emotion and look more positively into the future. So it has been a very rewarding process.January 2021
I am much more sure in myself. I have now finished uni and ....this is much less daunting for me than it would have been before. I came to coaching not knowing much about how it would help me, but it has changed a lot about my outlook on my life and has definitely benefitted me.Undergraduate, May 2021
My life situation was very confusing - I was coming to the end of my uni education and I was very unsure about who I was and where I wanted to end up. The biggest benefit was probably been my reflection on relationships I have with people in my day to day life - If I am not being fulfilled through these, then I ask myself why, try to find a solution and if this doesn't work then I move on with no guilt.Undergraduate, May 2021
The biggest benefit of Ruth's coaching has been gaining the strength to stand up for myself better.....I am better able to cope with the ongoing situation than before....keeping calm and focussed on the end goal is a lot easier.January 2021
Coaching felt like speaking to a friend with experience. It opened my eyes to the possibilities that life has in front of me. Ruth challenged me and questioned me on my thoughts and decisions, but only to a level I was able to cope with. I found it quite liberating. At times, perhaps I was really wanting Ruth to jump in, tell me what I needed to hear, tell me how it sounded to her, an outsider, but it was all a very non-judgemental experience - Ruth seemed to want me to explore my reasons/ rationale, question myself to reach my own decisions - which was hard, but necessary.February 2021
My life is transforming every day. Once Ruth had got me through the early days ......... I thought the worst was over and that I was done. But I then started working again (after an almost 20-year career break) and Ruth stepped in with useful steps to boost my confidence, she picked up on areas where I was doubting myself and lacking in confidence..........and bolstered me again when I needed it. She reminded me that my life, my dreams and passions mattered and that making others happy wasn't enough .. someone needed to make me happy. But I think first and foremost, I probably need to make myself happy.February 2021
But whilst trying to make the biggest, hardest decision of my life, my instinct was to give almost anything a shot and I'm so glad I did. Now every time I doubt myself I remind myself who I am .. by means of those core values which I know are true to me.February 2021
If you've reached a crossroads in life and need some direction, Ruth is your satnav of life. Helping to navigate you to your true values and goals in order to lead a fulfilled and happy life. Ruth shows you how to listen to your inner soulful voice - would highly recommend this enjoyable and enlightening course - we all deserve compassion, feeling and depth"T, West Sussex, Autumn 2020
"Enlightening, empowering and thought provoking. And forgot to include highly enjoyable. It's taken a long time to get to know and like me. Thanks to Ruth I am feeling more positive about myself and the future."J, West Sussex, Autumn 2020
I feel much more confident in that what I'm doing (starting up my own business) is allied to my values. it's great to get a finger on what's important in your life, without opening up any cans of worms. Ruth made it feel very easy. She has an open, warm and yet professional manner. I could hardly stop talking. Ruth guides you seamlessly though a process which results in increased clarity and confidence. She's there every step of the way.November 2020
I would highly recommend coaching to anyone struggling in any small or huge way - Ruth is somebody I found I connect with very easily which made the whole process comfortable2019
Coaching was very interesting and illuminating, made me aware of traits I hadn't consciously thought of before2019
When I started my sessions with Ruth, I was completely stuck in life and unable to move forward. I had six sessions and I have now started my own business in something I am passionate about. Ruth had a large part to play in this and made me feel safe and non judged at all times (something that is very important to me)2019
Coaching made me more self aware, not just of my 'faults' but of my strengths too2019
I really would recommend Ruth. She made me feel like I could be open and eventually honest. That's a huge achievement2019
Understanding what my core values are has had a huge positive impact in terms of how I react to people now2019
I realised I was saying things I wanted to hear, but not necessarily my own truth. Ruth's challenging helped me see this, and deep down I already knew2019
I realise that I am more capable than I think I am and now am achieving tasks out of my comfort zone2019
Welcome. How are you? Or more importantly, who are you? Who are you really, beneath the layers that you've added and edited over the decades? Who are you when you're alone, in the shelter of your solitude and under nobody's gaze? Which parts of yourself have you denied? Which dreams and wishes have you relegated to the shadows because you're 'too'? Too old, too inexperienced, too sensitive, too weak, too scared, too busy, too stuck in your ways.But WHAT IF? What if you could start that business, leave that relationship, heal that connection, push for that promotion, set that boundary, love yourself more, take that trip. If not now then when?
You are amazing and you are unique. You have a life story, a wonderful glorious story that holds chapters and scenes and characters and plot twists and themes. Nobody else has ever walked your path. You have so many chapters still to go, and it's up to you how the story ends.
I want to know your story. As your coach, I will listen to you with deeply focussed attention, and I will ask you questions that nobody has ever asked you before. Some of them will be challenging, some of them may be uncomfortable, but by really being curious about why you behave in the way you do, you'll gain a self awareness and clarity that will empower you to connect to what's important to you. We will explore your underlying beliefs, assumptions, expectations and the way you view the world. You will live more authentically, make better choices and focus your energy in the direction of what you really want.
Being coached is a bit like creating a map of yourself, marking out patterns, exploring unchartered territories, discovering new terrain and ultimately identifying our true selves.
I work with people who are committed to growth, to making a real change in their lives, people who are engaged with the work needed to get themselves exactly where they want to be. In return, I will coach you without judgement, but with intuition, compassion, patience and a genuine belief that you can fulfil your potential. I will hold you accountable, challenge you on your excuses, whilst being your cheerleader as you move forward. I will empower you to grow, thrive and shine.I don't have the answers, but I do have the questions.
Together we will explore the challenges you currently have, build on what's going well in your life, and focus on options and solutions, building new habits and finding new ways to be.The deepest change happens when we are supported. As your coach I will uncover and reflect back your blindspots, the things you can't or won't see and I will gently keep you on track.
Here is just a (tiny) flavour of what coaching can cover -
£425 for six sessions of up to an hour (usually over a period of three months)£825 for twelve sessions of up to an hour (usually over a period of six months)
For one day workshops, please see One day workshops for individuals
As well as holding a Diploma in Transformational Coaching, I am also an accredited Youth and Education Coach. As a mum I know that with all the will in the world, we as parents are not always best placed to guide our own children through the minefield of being a teenager. This is where coaching, with its non-judgemental, neutral approach can really help young adults to move through their challenges and learn tools that will empower them for the rest of their lives. Whether your child is navigating friendship issues, struggling with academic pressures, or feeling that they don't belong, coaching can have a huge positive impact. It can also provide interim support for your child while they are on a waiting list for specialist help.Find out more
As well as holding a Diploma in Transformational Coaching, I am also an accredited Youth and Education Coach, working both privately and running workshops in schools for a charity. For some young people, university is a time of joy, new friendships and a growing sense of self -confidence and independence. For others, it can be fraught with challenges - from learning to live independently for the first time, to navigating new cities, to being immersed in a world of new people and experiences, to academic struggles. Add to that the pressure to 'know what I want to do' when they graduate, it can be a really tough time. This is a perfect gift for a graduating student.Find out more
I am both a Transformative Coach and a Youth and Education Coach. I'm also a mum of two young adults. The teenage years can be challenging for not only the teenagers themselves, but also for us as parents, struggling to support them in a world that we ourselves didn't have to navigate when we were their age (social media, different life choices, lockdowns and online learning etc). Coaching supports you in supporting them.Find out more
Free monthly support circle for parents of teenagers with mental health challenges, particularly those on waiting list for NHS specialist help. 'You cannot pour from an empty jug' - it's so important that we, as parents, ensure that we look after our own wellbeing in order to be able to effectively support those we love. My intention in this small and confidential support group is to give you space to have a voice at this difficult time.Find out more
Open to just 22 people, join me for this intimate, interactive and fascinating course on using the Tarot as a tool for self exploration, personal growth and spiritual evolution.Find out more
Join other like- minded women who want to connect, share, learn and grow through coaching. Led by me and drawing on my training as a coach and the readings and teachings of some of the biggies, Eckhart Tolle, Carl Jung, Caroline Myss, Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Brene Brown amongst many many others.Find out more
What if there's more to your life than this? What if those parts of yourself that you are denying - your dreams, your hopes, your desires - are still within reach. What if this were your last day on earth - what would you regret not doing? Join my new 3 month programme for 2022 'The Life Review' and see your life transform. You'll wonder why it took you so long.Find out more
A small group workshop for you if you are currently going through a break up or have recently ended a relationship. Held over 4 consecutive weeks, it will enable you to learn tools to handle this emotional rollercoaster, rediscover who you are and what you want out of life, and move on with grace and strength. Please contact me to register your interestFind out more
A 4 hour intensive exploration of who you really are at your innermost being. Identifying your top ten core values - the things that make you tick, light you up, enable you to LOVE your life, looking forward to each day, rather than living each day on autopilot and just 'getting through' life. For many of my clients, discovering their core values has been a breakthrough moment, an epiphany. It is revealing, insightful and moving. It often provides a real shift, providing a clarity into situations that have, up until now proved difficult to understand or change.Find out more
A six session programme. Each session is up to 90 minutes every two weeks. For amazing, awesome mid-life women looking to find a happy, healthy, loving relationship first with yourself, before you consider whether you want a romantic relationship with somebody else. A space to really explore who you are, what it is you want out of a relationship and how to get it. Four people maximum, one evening per fortnight at my home in Horsham. Or up to four people maximum online (Zoom) one evening per fortnight £350 for 6 sessionsFind out more
A small supportive workshop for those going through a break up, separation or divorce.Find out more
Have you ever thought of a divorce ceremony? A kind of reverse wedding or an unmarriage ceremony? A way of ending a marriage and moving on with dignity and hope? Whether or not your ex partner wants to participate, a personalised ceremony can be deeply moving and healing.Find out more
A full day of intensive coaching 10.30am - 3.30pm Choose from KickStart your Mojo Supercharge your Self Esteem Heal your Relationships Reconnect with Yourself Divorce Detox Find your Happy :)Find out more
A full day of intensive coaching 10.30am - 3.30pm for groups of up to 4 friends. Choose from KickStart your Mojo Supercharge your Self Esteem Heal your Relationships Reconnect with Yourself Divorce Detox Find your Happy :)Find out more
Midlife, far from being a time when we start eyeing up elasticated waistbands and browsing garden fence catalogues, can be a time of huge enrichment, fulfilment and transformation. With age comes freedom, wisdom, inner peace , confidence and self acceptance. Midlife is the perfect time to take stock of what's gone before and what might be ahead. It's a time of possibility and potential. It's a time to ask yourself a big fat WHAT IF?Read More
In a world where church attendance is in decline, we are replacing the connection, spirituality and marking of life events that it used to bring, with our own rituals. From journalling to Pride to book clubs, modern curated rituals are fulfilling our human need for feeling that we're part of something bigger than ourselves.Read More
I love being a parent of teenagers. I mean, yes, there’s the hormones, the skin problems, the bad hair days, the crying, the mood swings. But enough about me. My kids are great. Parent of a teenager? Read on....Read More
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