Reconnecting to the real you
Finding your purpose
Empowering you to live a life of meaning
Welcome. How are you? Or more importantly, who are you? Who are you really, beneath the layers that you've added and edited over the decades? Who are you when you're alone, in the shelter of your solitude and under nobody's gaze? Which parts of yourself have you denied? Which dreams and wishes have you relegated to the shadows because you're 'too'? Too old, too inexperienced, too sensitive, too weak, too scared, too busy, too stuck in your ways.But WHAT IF? What if you could start that business, leave that relationship, heal that connection, push for that promotion, set that boundary, love yourself more, take that trip. If not now then when?
You are amazing and you are unique. You have a life story, a wonderful glorious story that holds chapters and scenes and characters and plot twists and themes. Nobody else has ever walked your path. You have so many chapters still to go, and it's up to you how the story ends.
I want to know your story. As your coach, I will listen to you with deeply focussed attention, and I will ask you questions that nobody has ever asked you before. Some of them will be challenging, some of them may be uncomfortable, but by really being curious about why you behave in the way you do, you'll gain a self awareness and clarity that will empower you to connect to what's important to you. We will explore your underlying beliefs, assumptions, expectations and the way you view the world. You will live more authentically, make better choices and focus your energy in the direction of what you really want.
Being coached is a bit like creating a map of yourself, marking out patterns, exploring unchartered territories, discovering new terrain and ultimately identifying our true selves.
I work with people who are committed to growth, to making a real change in their lives, people who are engaged with the work needed to get themselves exactly where they want to be. In return, I will coach you without judgement, but with intuition, compassion, patience and a genuine belief that you can fulfil your potential. I will hold you accountable, challenge you on your excuses, whilst being your cheerleader as you move forward. I will empower you to grow, thrive and shine.I don't have the answers, but I do have the questions.
Together we will explore the challenges you currently have, build on what's going well in your life, and focus on options and solutions, building new habits and finding new ways to be.The deepest change happens when we are supported. As your coach I will uncover and reflect back your blindspots, the things you can't or won't see and I will gently keep you on track.
Here is just a (tiny) flavour of what coaching can cover -
£425 for six sessions of up to an hour (usually over a period of three months)£825 for twelve sessions of up to an hour (usually over a period of six months)
For one day workshops, please see One day workshops for individuals
As well as holding a Diploma in Transformational Coaching, I am also an accredited Youth and Education Coach. As a mum I know that with all the will in the world, we as parents are not always best placed to guide our own children through the minefield of being a teenager. This is where coaching, with its non-judgemental, neutral approach can really help young adults to move through their challenges and learn tools that will empower them for the rest of their lives. Whether your child is navigating friendship issues, struggling with academic pressures, or feeling that they don't belong, coaching can have a huge positive impact. It can also provide interim support for your child while they are on a waiting list for specialist help.Find out more
As well as holding a Diploma in Transformational Coaching, I am also an accredited Youth and Education Coach, working both privately and running workshops in schools for a charity. For some young people, university is a time of joy, new friendships and a growing sense of self -confidence and independence. For others, it can be fraught with challenges - from learning to live independently for the first time, to navigating new cities, to being immersed in a world of new people and experiences, to academic struggles. Add to that the pressure to 'know what I want to do' when they graduate, it can be a really tough time. This is a perfect gift for a graduating student.Find out more
I am both a Transformational Coach and a Youth and Education Coach. I'm also a mum of two teenagers. The teenage years can be challenging for not only the teenagers themselves, but also for us as parents, struggling to support them in a world that we ourselves didn't have to navigate when we were their age (social media, different life choices, lockdowns and online learning etc). Coaching supports you in supporting them.Find out more
Free monthly support circle for parents of teenagers with mental health challenges, particularly those on waiting list for NHS specialist help. 'You cannot pour from an empty jug' - it's so important that we, as parents, ensure that we look after our own wellbeing in order to be able to effectively support those we love. My intention in this small and confidential support group is to give you space to have a voice at this difficult time.Find out more
This programme weaves together the narrative of your own life with that of four well known fairy tales, whose themes, symbols and ideas will trigger your unconscious imagination in a unique way, revealing aspects of yourself that you may not yet be conscious of, allowing you to address, challenge and heal them if needed. A powerful four part online programme (Zoom) held over 8 weeks 7-8.30pm Thursday 28th October, Thursday 11th November, Thursday 25th November , Thursday 9th December Cost £29 total for all four sessions Please contact me on email@example.com or 07704 109806Find out more
This programme weaves together the narrative of your own life with that of four well known fairy tales, whose themes, symbols and ideas will trigger your unconscious imagination in a unique way, revealing aspects of yourself that you may not yet be conscious of, allowing you to address, challenge and heal them if needed. A powerful four part online programme (Zoom) held over 8 weeks 7.30pm-9pm Wednesday 8th September, Wednesday 22nd September, Wednesday 6th October, Wednesday 20th October Cost £29 total for all four sessions Please contact me on firstname.lastname@example.org or 07704 109806Find out more
A 4 hour intensive exploration of who you really are at your innermost being. Identifying your top ten core values - the things that make you tick, light you up, enable you to LOVE your life, looking forward to each day, rather than living each day on autopilot and just 'getting through' life. For many of my clients, discovering their core values has been a breakthrough moment, an epiphany. It is revealing, insightful and moving. It often provides a real shift, providing a clarity into situations that have, up until now proved difficult to understand or change.Find out more
A six session programme. Each session is up to 90 minutes every two weeks. For amazing, awesome mid-life women looking to find a happy, healthy, loving relationship first with yourself, before you consider whether you want a romantic relationship with somebody else. A space to really explore who you are, what it is you want out of a relationship and how to get it. Four people maximum, one evening per fortnight at my home in Horsham. Or up to four people maximum online (Zoom) one evening per fortnight £350 for 6 sessionsFind out more
What if there's more to your life than this? What if those parts of yourself that you are denying - your dreams, your hopes, your desires - are still within reach. What if this were your last day on earth - what would you regret not doing? Join my new 3 month programme for 2021 'The Life Review' and see your life transform. You'll wonder why it took you so long.Find out more
A small supportive workshop for those going through a break up, separation or divorce.Find out more
Have you ever thought of a divorce ceremony? A kind of reverse wedding or an unmarriage ceremony? A way of ending a marriage and moving on with dignity and hope? Whether or not your ex partner wants to participate, a personalised ceremony can be deeply moving and healing.Find out more
A full day of intensive coaching 10.30am - 3.30pm Choose from KickStart your Mojo Supercharge your Self Esteem Heal your Relationships Reconnect with Yourself Divorce Detox Find your Happy :)Find out more
A full day of intensive coaching 10.30am - 3.30pm for groups of up to 4 friends. Choose from KickStart your Mojo Supercharge your Self Esteem Heal your Relationships Reconnect with Yourself Divorce Detox Find your Happy :)Find out more
Coaching with Ruth was a time which enabled me to process my thoughts, think more clearly, draw conclusions to troubling, hurtful situations at home, release unhelpful emotion and look more positively into the future. So it has been a very rewarding process."January 2021
I am much more sure in myself. I have now finished uni and ....this is much less daunting for me than it would have been before. I came to coaching not knowing much about how it would help me, but it has changed a lot about my outlook on my life and has definitely benefitted me."Undergraduate, May 2021
My life situation was very confusing - I was coming to the end of my uni education and I was very unsure about who I was and where I wanted to end up. The biggest benefit was probably been my reflection on relationships I have with people in my day to day life - If I am not being fulfilled through these, then I ask myself why, try to find a solution and if this doesn't work then I move on with no guilt."Undergraduate, May 2021
The biggest benefit of Ruth's coaching has been gaining the strength to stand up for myself better.....I am better able to cope with the ongoing situation than before....keeping calm and focussed on the end goal is a lot easier."January 2021
Coaching felt like speaking to a friend with experience. It opened my eyes to the possibilities that life has in front of me. Ruth challenged me and questioned me on my thoughts and decisions, but only to a level I was able to cope with. I found it quite liberating. At times, perhaps I was really wanting Ruth to jump in, tell me what I needed to hear, tell me how it sounded to her, an outsider, but it was all a very non-judgemental experience - Ruth seemed to want me to explore my reasons/ rationale, question myself to reach my own decisions - which was hard, but necessary."February 2021
My life is transforming every day. Once Ruth had got me through the early days ......... I thought the worst was over and that I was done. But I then started working again (after an almost 20-year career break) and Ruth stepped in with useful steps to boost my confidence, she picked up on areas where I was doubting myself and lacking in confidence..........and bolstered me again when I needed it. She reminded me that my life, my dreams and passions mattered and that making others happy wasn't enough .. someone needed to make me happy. But I think first and foremost, I probably need to make myself happy."February 2021
But whilst trying to make the biggest, hardest decision of my life, my instinct was to give almost anything a shot and I'm so glad I did. Now every time I doubt myself I remind myself who I am .. by means of those core values which I know are true to me."February 2021
If you've reached a crossroads in life and need some direction, Ruth is your satnav of life. Helping to navigate you to your true values and goals in order to lead a fulfilled and happy life. Ruth shows you how to listen to your inner soulful voice - would highly recommend this enjoyable and enlightening course - we all deserve compassion, feeling and depth""T, West Sussex, Autumn 2020
"Enlightening, empowering and thought provoking. And forgot to include highly enjoyable. It's taken a long time to get to know and like me. Thanks to Ruth I am feeling more positive about myself and the future.""J, West Sussex, Autumn 2020
I feel much more confident in that what I'm doing (starting up my own business) is allied to my values. it's great to get a finger on what's important in your life, without opening up any cans of worms. Ruth made it feel very easy. She has an open, warm and yet professional manner. I could hardly stop talking. Ruth guides you seamlessly though a process which results in increased clarity and confidence. She's there every step of the way."November 2020
I would highly recommend coaching to anyone struggling in any small or huge way - Ruth is somebody I found I connect with very easily which made the whole process comfortable"2019
Coaching was very interesting and illuminating, made me aware of traits I hadn't consciously thought of before"2019
When I started my sessions with Ruth, I was completely stuck in life and unable to move forward. I had six sessions and I have now started my own business in something I am passionate about. Ruth had a large part to play in this and made me feel safe and non judged at all times (something that is very important to me)"2019
Coaching made me more self aware, not just of my 'faults' but of my strengths too"2019
I really would recommend Ruth. She made me feel like I could be open and eventually honest. That's a huge achievement"2019
Understanding what my core values are has had a huge positive impact in terms of how I react to people now"2019
I realised I was saying things I wanted to hear, but not necessarily my own truth. Ruth's challenging helped me see this, and deep down I already knew"2019
I realise that I am more capable than I think I am and now am achieving tasks out of my comfort zone"2019
Midlife, far from being a time when we start eyeing up elasticated waistbands and browsing garden fence catalogues, can be a time of huge enrichment, fulfilment and transformation. With age comes freedom, wisdom, inner peace , confidence and self acceptance. Midlife is the perfect time to take stock of what's gone before and what might be ahead. It's a time of possibility and potential. It's a time to ask yourself a big fat WHAT IF?Read More
In a world where church attendance is in decline, we are replacing the connection, spirituality and marking of life events that it used to bring, with our own rituals. From journalling to Pride to book clubs, modern curated rituals are fulfilling our human need for feeling that we're part of something bigger than ourselves.Read More
I love being a parent of teenagers. I mean, yes, there’s the hormones, the skin problems, the bad hair days, the crying, the mood swings. But enough about me. My kids are great. Parent of a teenager? Read on....Read More
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