Ruth Gregory Coaching

Reconnecting to the real you
Finding your purpose
Empowering you to live a life of meaning

 Ruth has this amazing ability to really see you. She picks up on language and nuances and really mirrors them back to you and delves and explores them in detail. You feel like something is being lit up inside of you. Ruth challenges emotions and behaviours and the lightbulb moments that come from this are life changing. Ruth's passion and commitment to self development is inspiring and infections. She is a total life changer and I cannot wait to work with her again in the future. 

December 2023

 I now feel I am on the right road to what I want. I feel much free-er and comfortable with my decisions and feelings. Coaching is an ongoing process and I feel like I now have the tools to self validate and be at peace with the direction I want to go in. The strength and conviction have found is unfathomable, and I am so proud I am starting to return to my authentic self. 

December 2023

 Coaching was more than I ever thought and the feeling of returning to myself and validating my own emotions, wants and needs was so enlightening. The life shift that has come with this wasn't something I actually knew you could even feel. 

December 2023

 I just wanted to say the biggest thank you to you from the bottom of my heart and express all my gratitude for you. My sessions with you really were the catalyst of me finally being brave enough to listen to my soul and what I truly wanted to do and the changes I needed to make to live my life aligned. Your soul and your life experiences and your gifts and the space you held for me gave me that and I will be forever grateful. It’s been such a journey the past few years but I know it’s all led me to this point and sharing my authentic self on social media, ready to start my business. 

October 2023

 My life feels so much better since the coaching. It no longer feels chaotic. I have a very different feeling of control and autonomy. To now have and understand 'Boundaries', I feel calmer, more aware, more confident, more focussed. I feel more in touch with myself, reconnected. 

December 2022

 Coaching has felt like looking at my life as a whole, but also exploring small details - how my life works for me, it has encompassed everything. Ruth is fantastic, a warm, gentle, compassionate, gifted, astute and extremely insightful coach. It was so very enjoyable, I absolutely loved and looked forward to our sessions. I didn't want it to end. 

December 2022

 Ruth is a warm, welcoming, non judgemental person who makes you feel at home. Her inquisitive nature made me think deeply. She made the sessions simple and enjoyable. Coaching felt much deeper (than counselling). I'm 100% better for it. 

October 2022

 I am at a new life stage and my youngest will be flying the next in the not too distant future. I am conscious of the clock ticking and I need to start planning and do all the things I want before it's too late. It was a very enjoyable session and very thought provoking. I have thought of nothing else since I left and have realised I haven't been listening to my dreams. 

March 2022
Values Workshop Client

 I was in a very bad place, right after making some life-changing decisions and under pressure to make more big decisions about my future and I felt really lost. Ruth guided me out of the wilderness of my thoughts and feelings and helped me recognise that I already have a lot of the answers. Identifying my core values felt like looking into a mirror and proudly saying 'this is me.' 

January 2022

 The biggest change I've observed since coaching is that I am much more comfortable accepting that whatever I think or feel is valid. As a consequence, I am a lot better now setting my boundaries. Also being clear on my values now, I feel like I'm standing on firm ground and not on quicksand anymore. 

January 2022

 Coaching with Ruth was a time which enabled me to process my thoughts, think more clearly, draw conclusions to troubling, hurtful situations at home, release unhelpful emotion and look more positively into the future. So it has been a very rewarding process. 

January 2021

 I am much more sure in myself. I have now finished uni and ....this is much less daunting for me than it would have been before. I came to coaching not knowing much about how it would help me, but it has changed a lot about my outlook on my life and has definitely benefitted me. 

Undergraduate, May 2021

 My life situation was very confusing - I was coming to the end of my uni education and I was very unsure about who I was and where I wanted to end up. The biggest benefit was probably been my reflection on relationships I have with people in my day to day life - If I am not being fulfilled through these, then I ask myself why, try to find a solution and if this doesn't work then I move on with no guilt. 

Undergraduate, May 2021

 The biggest benefit of Ruth's coaching has been gaining the strength to stand up for myself better.....I am better able to cope with the ongoing situation than before....keeping calm and focussed on the end goal is a lot easier. 

January 2021

 Coaching felt like speaking to a friend with experience. It opened my eyes to the possibilities that life has in front of me. Ruth challenged me and questioned me on my thoughts and decisions, but only to a level I was able to cope with. I found it quite liberating. At times, perhaps I was really wanting Ruth to jump in, tell me what I needed to hear, tell me how it sounded to her, an outsider, but it was all a very non-judgemental experience - Ruth seemed to want me to explore my reasons/ rationale, question myself to reach my own decisions - which was hard, but necessary. 

February 2021

 My life is transforming every day. Once Ruth had got me through the early days ......... I thought the worst was over and that I was done. But I then started working again (after an almost 20-year career break) and Ruth stepped in with useful steps to boost my confidence, she picked up on areas where I was doubting myself and lacking in confidence..........and bolstered me again when I needed it. She reminded me that my life, my dreams and passions mattered and that making others happy wasn't enough .. someone needed to make me happy. But I think first and foremost, I probably need to make myself happy. 

February 2021

 But whilst trying to make the biggest, hardest decision of my life, my instinct was to give almost anything a shot and I'm so glad I did. Now every time I doubt myself I remind myself who I am .. by means of those core values which I know are true to me. 

February 2021

 If you've reached a crossroads in life and need some direction, Ruth is your satnav of life. Helping to navigate you to your true values and goals in order to lead a fulfilled and happy life. Ruth shows you how to listen to your inner soulful voice - would highly recommend this enjoyable and enlightening course - we all deserve compassion, feeling and depth" 

T, West Sussex, Autumn 2020

 "Enlightening, empowering and thought provoking. And forgot to include highly enjoyable. It's taken a long time to get to know and like me. Thanks to Ruth I am feeling more positive about myself and the future." 

J, West Sussex, Autumn 2020

 I feel much more confident in that what I'm doing (starting up my own business) is allied to my values. it's great to get a finger on what's important in your life, without opening up any cans of worms. Ruth made it feel very easy. She has an open, warm and yet professional manner. I could hardly stop talking. Ruth guides you seamlessly though a process which results in increased clarity and confidence. She's there every step of the way. 

November 2020

 I would highly recommend coaching to anyone struggling in any small or huge way - Ruth is somebody I found I connect with very easily which made the whole process comfortable 


 Coaching was very interesting and illuminating, made me aware of traits I hadn't consciously thought of before 


 When I started my sessions with Ruth, I was completely stuck in life and unable to move forward. I had six sessions and I have now started my own business in something I am passionate about. Ruth had a large part to play in this and made me feel safe and non judged at all times (something that is very important to me) 


 Coaching made me more self aware, not just of my 'faults' but of my strengths too 


 I really would recommend Ruth. She made me feel like I could be open and eventually honest. That's a huge achievement 


 Understanding what my core values are has had a huge positive impact in terms of how I react to people now 


 I realised I was saying things I wanted to hear, but not necessarily my own truth. Ruth's challenging helped me see this, and deep down I already knew 


 I realise that I am more capable than I think I am and now am achieving tasks out of my comfort zone 


Welcome.  How are you?  Or more importantly, who are you?  Who are you really, beneath the layers that you've added and edited over the decades? Who are you when you're alone, in the shelter of your solitude and under nobody's gaze?   Which parts of yourself have you denied?  Which dreams and wishes have you relegated to the shadows because you're 'too'?  Too old, too inexperienced, too sensitive, too weak, too scared, too busy, too stuck in your ways.

But WHAT IF?  What if you could start that business, leave that relationship, heal that connection, push for that promotion, set that boundary, love yourself more, take that trip.  If not now then when?

You are amazing and you are unique.  You have a life story, a wonderful glorious story that holds chapters and scenes and characters and plot twists and themes.  Nobody else has ever walked your path. You have so many  chapters still to go, and it's up to you how the story ends.

I want to know your story.  As your coach, I will listen to you  with deeply focussed attention, and I will ask you questions that nobody has ever asked you before.  Some of them will be challenging, some of them may be uncomfortable, but by really being curious about why you behave in the way you do, you'll gain a self awareness and clarity that will empower you to connect to what's important to you. We will explore your underlying beliefs, assumptions, expectations and the way you view the world.  You will live more authentically, make better choices and focus your energy in the direction of what you really want.   

Being coached is a bit like creating a map of yourself, marking out patterns, exploring unchartered territories, discovering new terrain and ultimately identifying our true selves.  

I work with people who are committed to growth, to making a real change in their lives, people who are engaged with the work needed to get themselves exactly where they want to be.  In return, I will coach you without judgement, but with intuition, compassion, patience and a genuine belief that you can fulfil your potential.  I will hold you accountable, challenge you on your excuses, whilst being your cheerleader as you move forward.  I will empower you to grow, thrive and shine.

I don't have the answers, but I do have the questions.

My approach to coaching is holistic, meaning that I see you as a whole person, whose way of being is shaped by the physical, mental, emotional, social and spiritual spheres.

I draw on many different approaches in my coaching, including humanism, positive psychology, narrative Coaching, Jungian psychology, the transpersonal, spirituality. By combining a variety of approaches bespoke to your own unique way of being, we will gain insight into the subtle and subconscious drivers of your actions, behaviour, and motivations. No two people are the same, and so my approach is different with each and every client.

Together we will explore the challenges you currently have, build on what's going well in your life, and focus on options and solutions, building new habits and finding new ways to be. 

The deepest change happens when we are supported.  As your coach I will uncover and reflect back your blindspots, the things you can't or won't see and I will gently keep you on track.  

Here is just a (tiny) flavour of what coaching can cover - 

  • changing limiting beliefs that might be holding you back
  • changing negative thought patterns
  • creating a positive mindset
  • identifying your values
  • quieting the inner critic
  • rethinking a difficult relationship
  • building useful habits
  • changing your 'story'

£500 for six sessions of up to an hour (usually over a period of three months)

£950 for twelve sessions of up to an hour (usually over a period of six months)


For deep, long term, transformational change, sign up for a year's coaching - £1800 for 24 sessions (two sessions per month).

For one day workshops, please see  One day workshops for individuals

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self exploration through dreams, myths and archetypes

A 24 session one to one programme of deep self-exploration.

You will work with me, twice a month for a year, in order to facilitate deep change and healing.

A profoundly immersive and powerful exploration of who you are right now, drawing on the work of Carl Jung, Caroline Myss, Sharon Blackie and Clarissa Pinkola Estes, amongst others.

Based on transpersonal psychology, we will explore why you have chosen to come to this life, at this time, the lessons that you need to learn, and your connection to a higher self.

We will cover
  • Your story, the characters, situations and experiences that have brought you to where you are now.
  • Your 12 archetypes and how to work with them as your guides.
  • Your Shadow and how to integrate it.
  • Your dreams, their unique language and symbols,  and how to work with them to gain greater understanding and clarity
  • What your purpose is in this life, what you came here to learn and to share with the world.
  • How your judgements of others, both good and bad, reflect hidden parts of yourself.  A tough lesson to accept, but life-changing.

There is no coincidence.

The people in your life, the experiences you have had, the places you have lived, the dreams you have had. They are all here to teach you. If you do not actively examine them, you are asleep in life. Sleeping keeps us inert, lifeless, passing through life with our eyes shut. How would it be to awaken to the glorious possibility of what your life could be, the delicious potential that exists within each and every one of us. Your divine spark.Your own magic. The life that means you are lit up inside each and every day.

You are not what happened to you in the past. You are not the wake of the ship. You are what you choose to become. Your life belongs to you.

Everyone in your life is a mirror of you. What you see in them is a part of you.

We meet ourselves time and time again in a thousand disguises on the path of life - Carl Jung

24 sessions
Support in between sessions - this might take the form of a phone call or a Zoom meeting.
Assignments between sessions

For more information, please call me on
07704 109806
or email

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Coaching for young adults at school, college and university Coaching for parents of young adults 

Coaching for teenagers and young adults

As well as holding a Diploma in Transformational Coaching, I am also an accredited Youth and Education Coach. As a mum I know that with all the will in the world, we as parents are not always best placed to guide our own children through the minefield of being a teenager. This is where coaching, with its non-judgemental, neutral approach can really help young adults to move through their challenges and learn tools that will empower them for the rest of their lives. Whether your child is navigating friendship issues, struggling with academic pressures, or feeling that they don't belong, coaching can have a huge positive impact. It can also provide interim support for your child while they are on a waiting list for specialist help.

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Coaching for university students

As well as holding a Diploma in Transformational Coaching, I am also an accredited Youth and Education Coach, working both privately and running workshops in schools for a charity. For some young people, university is a time of joy, new friendships and a growing sense of self -confidence and independence. For others, it can be fraught with challenges - from learning to live independently for the first time, to navigating new cities, to being immersed in a world of new people and experiences, to academic struggles. Add to that the pressure to 'know what I want to do' when they graduate, it can be a really tough time. This is a perfect gift for a graduating student.

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Coaching parents - Zoom or Face to Face

I am both a Transformative Coach and a Youth and Education Coach. I'm also a mum of two young adults, and Lead Facilitator for The Juno Project, a charity that runs workshops in schools for 13-16 year old young women. The teenage years can be challenging for not only the teenagers themselves, but also for us as parents, struggling to support them in a world that we ourselves didn't have to navigate when we were their age (social media, different life choices, lockdowns and online learning etc). We may find ourselves struggling with Our inability to 'fix' things for them Their intense emotions and moods Their demanding of more control over their own lives Communicating effectively Our role now that they are becoming more and more independent and much more. Coaching supports you in supporting them.

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Parent and teenager coaching

A bespoke programme for your teenager and yourself, with sessions being taken separately but concurrently to maximise success.

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What or who are you beneath all your roles?

Parenting Teenagers and Young Adults Workshop

The teenage years can be heavy-going for parents, it's easy to feel helpless in our children's ever changing world and its challenges. Coaching can support you as parent on many levels.

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The Life Review 2024

What if there's more to your life than this? What if those parts of yourself that you are denying - your dreams, your hopes, your desires - are still within reach. What if this were your last day on earth - what would you regret not doing? A 3 month programme for 2024 'The Life Review' will empower you to transform your life. You'll wonder why it took you so long.

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Healing from break up and divorce

A one day workshop for you if you are currently going through a break up or have recently ended a relationship. The workshop will enable you to learn tools to handle this emotional rollercoaster, rediscover who you are and what you want out of life, and move on with grace and strength.

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Find your Soul. Find your SoulMate

A one day workshop. Can be taken individually or with a friend. For amazing, awesome mid-life women looking to find a happy, healthy, loving relationship first with yourself, before you consider whether you want a romantic relationship with somebody else. A space to really explore who you are, what it is you want out of a relationship and how to get it. Comfortable, private surroundings near Horsham, West Sussex One Person £500 10.30am-3.30pm Two People £700 10.30am-3.30pm

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The Game Changer - your Top Ten Core Values

A 4 hour intensive exploration of who you really are at your innermost being. Identifying your top ten core values - the things that make you tick, light you up, enable you to LOVE your life, looking forward to each day, rather than living each day on autopilot and just 'getting through' life. For many of my clients, discovering their core values has been a breakthrough moment, an epiphany. It is revealing, insightful and moving. It often provides a real shift, providing a clarity into situations that have, up until now proved difficult to understand or change.

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One Day Workshop - Individual

A full day of intensive coaching 10.30am - 3.30pm Choose from KickStart your Mojo Supercharge your Self Esteem Heal your Relationships Reconnect with Yourself Divorce Detox Find your Happy :)

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Pre Marriage Coaching

Pre marriage coaching enables you to grow an even deeper connection with each other and begin your marriage from an even stronger foundation.

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Wisdom and Wonder Women's Circle

Join other like- minded women who want to connect, share, learn and grow through coaching. Led by me and drawing on my training as a coach and the readings and teachings of some of the biggies, Eckhart Tolle, Carl Jung, Caroline Myss, Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Brene Brown amongst many many others.

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Untying the Knot - the modern woman's way of moving on

Have you ever thought of a divorce ceremony? A kind of reverse wedding or an unmarriage ceremony? A way of ending a marriage and moving on with dignity and hope? Whether or not your ex partner wants to participate, a personalised ceremony can be deeply moving and healing.

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If you're wondering whether you actually need a coach, it might be useful to consider this question

Imagine yourself in six month's time, having successfully worked on the challenges you're facing today, what would be different?

If you want to see changes, live a more fulfilled life and realign with who you truly are in this life, then self-awareness is key. Without knowing ourselves deeply, we're not living, we're existing. Maybe that sounds a bit 'new age' or 'woo woo', but the bottom line is that coaching works. And there's nothing mysterious about it. It's based on and draws upon principles from a wide range of fields, from positive psychology to training to spirituality to counselling and personal development. The coach's own personality, approaches and life experience will also come into the mix.

We all have a story, but sometimes the stories we tell ourselves are no longer helpful. They can keep us stuck in an unhappy situation and prevent us from moving on. Coaching gives you the space to tell your story, to talk, think and be heard; A coach will reflect back to you what you're thinking and feeling. It's incredibly powerful and often unexpectedly moving.

Being coached is a bit like creating a map of yourself, marking out patterns, exploring unchartered territories, discovering new terrain and ultimately identifying our true selves.

Are you struggling to achieve what you want out of life? Do you want to move forward, but get ‘stuck’ each time you try? Maybe you’re facing a major life change such as the end of a relationship or a redundancy. Do you feel invisible in your own life? Do you still feel 25 inside? Do you wonder who you are, where did the real you go? Do you want to feel like you’ve ‘come home’

Below are just a few examples of challenges that have led people to come to coaching in the past

You feel 'stuck'
You're at a career crossroads
You don't know who you are any more, lost
You want to work on a particular challenge that is holding you back, for example, fear of public speaking, always choosing the wrong relationship, losing weight for a wedding, giving up smoking
You want to feel alive again

You feel unmotivated
You're wondering what happened to the dreams you had
You want a better financial situation
You want a more fulfilled career
You want a sense of purpose

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If this were your last day, would you be satisfied with your life?

After graduating from Durham University with a BA (Hons) Combined Arts, I went on to work in teaching, training, marketing and media research. I hold a ICF accredited Diploma in Transformational Coaching from Animas (2018) and recently became an accredited Youth and Education Coach (Animas, 2021).

More importantly I have life experience in being stuck, wondering who I am, divorce, being the sandwich generation, parenting teenagers, and all the other stuff that comes with being unarmed in the no man's land that is midlife. When I'm not dodging life's bullets, I love creative writing as it allows me to live life vicariously through my characters. I also love fitness and walking with my dog.  I'm not sure if I'm an introvert extrovert or an extrovert introvert, but I can feel overwhelmed by places that are too peopley and I can be the life and soul of the party, but only until 9pm. Solitude is my sanctuary, where I recharge my batteries and reconnect with my inner peace. With myself, not by myself.

 My life's good - it's not perfect but it's real. I certainly haven't got it all figured out, but when life throws me a challenge, I can handle it with the tools I've learned through coaching and personal growth. I would love to share my coaching approach with you, and get you to the other side of whatever challenge you're facing.

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Six sessions of transformational life coaching £500

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